5 Reasons Why People Don't Fully Recover from Loss
Though EFT tapping is incredibly effective for grief recovery, most people don’t fully recover from losing a loved one.
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Tapping Script for Releasing Beliefs & Fears That Prevent Grief Recovery
Nearly every client I work with on healing the pain of losing a loved one has inner blocks to grief recovery like the ones below.
When I guide them through the process of tapping out these beliefs and fears, they disappear, and then the grief recovery process can be completed.
Likewise, if you tap out these beliefs and fears about grief, you’ll find that you will no longer believe them—they just won’t feel true to you anymore. They will, in effect, disappear. And the same is true for the fears in this script.
On the other side of that tapping work, you’ll discover that all of your love for and connection with the person you lost is still there. It’s just the pain that’s gone. And then you'll experience for yourself what I often say: Love is forever, but grief doesn't have to be.
HOW TO USE THIS TAPPING SCRIPT
As with all of my tapping scripts, these statements can be used as is, or modified in any way that makes them resonate more fully with your experience.
Some of them will fit for you, and some will not. Just use the ones that fit your experience and have an emotional charge.
You may notice that when you start tapping on these statements, thoughts and feelings will arise that you can then turn into new tapping statements, which will then give rise to still more thoughts and feelings, which you can use to create additional tapping statements, and so on.
I call this following the thread, and it’s a very efficient way to heal and release a lot of painful feelings in a short amount of time.
Before you start tapping on a statement, give it a number between 0 and 10 which indicates the level of fear, stress, or concern that the statement brings up for you.
Then, do your best to tap on the statement until it is a 0, which means all of the emotional charge is gone.
There is a lot of material here! I recommend spending anywhere from 20 to 60 minutes on this, but not more than that.
That means you’ll only have time to tap out a small number of the statements on this script in one session.
If you’re thorough, and tap things down to 0, you’ll likely feel MUCH better after tapping out just a few of them. You can attend to other ones at another time.
PLEASE NOTE
When doing EFT tapping on your own, if you aren't able to completely heal the issue you're working on, so that when you think about it, it no longer causes any stress, emotional pain, anger, or fear, I recommend working with a professional EFT practitioner. If you decide that this is the best course of action for you, and you'd like to work with me, click here to schedule a session or free consultation.
THE TAPPING STATEMENTS
Losing a loved one is something you never fully recover from.
It’s not possible to really get over losing a loved one.
The pain of losing a loved one lasts for the rest of your life.
You can learn to cope with loss, but it can’t really be healed.
I’ll never be okay with my _____ being gone.
My sadness keeps me connected to my _______.
If I’m no longer in pain about my _______’s death, it means I don’t love him/her anymore.
It doesn’t feel right to fully heal this loss.
If I’m okay with _____ being gone, it means I’m not honoring his/her memory.
If I heal all of my grief about my _______, I’ll lose my connection to him/her.
If I heal all of my pain about ______ being gone, other people will think I don’t love him/her anymore.
If I heal all of my pain about ______ being gone, other people will think I never really loved him/her.
If I heal all of my pain about ______ being gone, other people will think I’m a bad ______ [fill in the blank with the appropriate word, such as wife, son, sister, friend, etc.]
My grief/sadness/sorrow is all I have left of my ______
Grief is supposed to last forever.
It’s my duty to grieve this loss for the rest of my life.
If I’m not in pain about this loss for the rest of my life, it means that I’m a bad _________ [fill in the blank with the appropriate word, such as wife, daughter, sister, etc.]
Being a good [fill in the blank with the appropriate word, such as wife, daughter, sister, etc.] means grieving _______ for the rest of my life.
My _______ died too soon.
My ________ died before his/her life was complete.
My ________ didn’t get to finish his/her life.
My ________’s life was cut short.
I’ll never be truly happy without my ________.
It’s not fair that ______ is gone.
My pain over losing _______ keeps his/her memory alive.
Losing ______ has created a huge hole in my family that will never be filled.
I’ll never get over losing my _______.
I’ll be grieving _______ for the rest of my life.
Because my ______ died before we resolved our issues, I’ll never be at peace about him/her.
My unfinished business with _______ means I’ll never have closure about my relationship with him/her.
I would be happier if my _______ was still here.
My life would be better if _______ was still here.
Because of how ______ died, I’m afraid he/she will never be at peace.
Losing a _______ [fill in the blank with the appropriate word, such as spouse, child, parent, etc.] is something you never really get over.
I’ll never be able to think about my _______ [fill in the blank with the appropriate word, such as spouse, child, parent, etc.] without feeling sad.
If I’m no longer in pain about losing ______, I’ll forget him/her.
I’m not comfortable with the possibility of fully healing this loss because then it will be like erasing him/her from my life.
Being a ______ [fill in the blank with the appropriate word, such as widow, parent who lost a child, orphan, etc.] is my identity.
If I heal all of this grief, I’ll lose a big part of who I am.
Healing my grief means losing the one thing that still connects me to ________.
PLEASE NOTE
When doing EFT on your own, if you aren't able to completely heal the issue you're working on, so that when you think about it, it no longer causes any stress, emotional pain, anger, or fear, I recommend working with a professional EFT practitioner. If you decide that this is the best course of action for you, and you'd like to work with me, click here to learn more and schedule an EFT session or free consultation.
MORE TAPPING SCRIPTS
Heather Ambler is an EFT practitioner and mindset coach in California. Through her private practice and online programs, she’s helped over 14,000 people in 81 countries heal the pain of losing a loved one, recover from trauma, release fears, erase limiting beliefs, increase confidence, and achieve goals. If you could use some help with any of these things, click here to learn more and schedule an EFT session or free consultation.
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